I recently read an article written by Grace Driscoll on what a Godly female friend looks like. It had some great insights and wisdom and so I thought I'd share her 5 signs of a healthy, godly female friend here:
1. She will help you grow in your
relationship with Christ. If she doesn’t, then you need to make sure you
are strong enough to be a witness instead staying stagnant with Jesus.
If you aren’t strong enough, then you need to have boundaries or be
willing to give up the relationship so that you keep Jesus the priority.
2. She will serve you, and you
will serve her. If this is one-sided then you will get taken advantage
of or be using her. Friendship isn’t always “even,” but there needs to
be mutual serving. If there isn’t, you can kindly confront the issue,
and her response will tell you if the friendship is healthy.
3. If you are married, your husband will see her as an
asset rather than a hindrance in your marriage. As women, it can tend to
be easier for us to be friends with other women than it is with our
husband. We more readily share vulnerably with women, confess sin with
women, or ask for counsel from women. If our conversations with other
women spark division in our marriage it is not godly.
4. When conflict arises or counsel
needs to be given, she is willing to both listen and speak into the
issue. It is important that both women are teachable or else
reconciliation is difficult.
5. As important as healthy friendships are, it is also
important to hold them with an “open hand” so that the women don’t
become idols whom you worship. She should be someone you enjoy, learn
from, and invest in but not someone you put on a pedestal.
"A true friend is one who is walking in, when everyone else is walking out.” – Martin Luther
Great points - thank you for sharing that - it gives me something to remember and work towards with my friendships
ReplyDeleteYou're my neighbour on the Thought Provoking Thursday link up today. Reading this list - it's fantastic! A great way to help us to measure up to being a godly friend, and to ensure our friendships don't interfere with our marriages either.
ReplyDeleteWonderful points.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this, Cathy. This is VERY timely for me. Such wise words!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this great list! I feel so blessed to have at least one friend who has all these qualities. :)
ReplyDeleteExcellent points! Too often as women, we see friendship as a "hang time" buddy. And there is nothing wrong with that. But if that is ALL our friendship is, then it is no longer a support and true encouragement to our lives.
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Great advice - both for determining healthy friendships as well as knowing what kind of friend we should be to others.
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Blessings,
Joan
I've had to learn these lessons the hard way. I recently had to let a friendship go, she wasn't helping me grow in my relationship, and I realized I wasn't strong enough in mine to be more of an influence..it was one of the hardest things I had to do. I still love her and pray for her and we keep in touch, but it's not like before...and it's a good thing.
ReplyDeleteThank-you ladies for all sharing. I appreciate all your wonderful comments!
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